Communication in a relationship
Wednesday, December 11, 2013
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So many marriages are going through bumpy rides these days due to lack of communication. The life style of people with fast growing pace of technology has made room for very poor communication in marriage. Technology has open it's windows for easy communication through the world but what more important is communication between husband and wife to lead a very successful marriage which is lacking day by day. The first root of poor marriage starts with poor or lack of communication and Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families says "You can't communicate while you're checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section''.
During the times of our parents and grandparents, every one lead happy and successful marriages and even in those days they may not be educated as the generation of today or may not be lead comfortable life but inside the family they we happy and husband and wife made time for each other to discuss family matters, children , future and their daily routines. Today every thing has changed even though technology has made the world come closer, it also has made a huge space between husband and wife and also with children. A dinner with family does not play a fair role any more and the busy life styles have made every one act as robots.
Communication is not always proving your point or wining an argument but also patiently listening to the other with interest. If the spouses listened with their hearts and minds it will be easy to understand the other person and you'll be able to see the world through their eyes. The most common mistakes the spouses make in communication is yelling at each other in anger. When you are angry you raise your voice which would create tension and the quickest and easiest way to release it will be yelling at your spouse which will make trouble than a relief. Yelling unleashes lot of strong negative emotions which will take the center stage of your argument. And mostly in these situations your message will be diminished or misunderstood as your partner will be defensive and frustrated. So it is advisable that you should talk things to your partner in a environment where both of you would be comfortable and each must have patience to listen and give the best emotional support.
Lack of communication leads to misunderstandings and unwanted arguments between the spouses and the effect of such incidents may lead into situations which will harm the entire family. It is always better to talk things over and keep updated of each others emotions, feelings, fears and dreams and etc. Communication in marriage not only help you to resolve problems but it will make you feel wanted , loved and care as well. Honesty and loyalty is essential in every communication for a successful marriage and every spouse have the right to express his/her self to the partner of every single thing which cross the mind. No marriage or relationship would be strong with lack of communication and verbal communication and physical communication between the spouses will make them bring closer emotionally which is the path for a happier marriage.
posted by Sajini Lakshika Chandrasekera @ 5:07 PM,
4 Comments:
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At December 12, 2013 at 5:19 PM,
Kausar Bilal said...
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Generally, I agree with you.
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At December 12, 2013 at 10:09 PM,
Unknown said...
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Honesty and an open mind ! Feel adjustment is best but not changing identity. Well said as always!
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At December 13, 2013 at 12:04 PM,
Unknown said...
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@ Kausar Bilal .....
Thank toy for your lovely comment and I think this is a must in all relationships. -
At December 13, 2013 at 12:06 PM,
Unknown said...
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@ arundatthi Sivagurunaathan....
Thank you for your lovely comment and it is time we talk about problems regarding marriage openly and honestly.
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